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Trigger — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 15:49:54 -0000

I'm Magical one, too, because I never use this word, and neither does my Magical brother. At the same time, it doesn't usually bug me when other black people use it. That's them, I'm me. I personally don't feel right saying it. It just doesn't a) come to mind, or b) flow comfortably from my mouth. Unless I'm singing along to Straight Outta Compton or something, which, c'mon. I'm quoting. (It has to be old school; this exemption barely worked back then, and it's been grandfathered. It doesn't work at all with new stuff.)

At any rate, I mostly hang with white people right now (white town), so... yeah.

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livinonfaith — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 15:48:55 -0000

I'm white and 44 years old so I've seen a definite change in the use and power structure of this word as time has passed, at least in my very limited circles. I don't pretend that my experience is the same as anyone else, but for the record, here it is.

When I was growing up, the N word was the worst possible curse word you could use in our household. Shit or damn would get you a lecture, but my siblings and I never even experimented with the N word, because we understood that it was on a completely different level. My parents felt that it was a very hateful and personal slur, one best never used.

On the other hand, I knew other people in my outer circle of family and friends who used it, some rarely, some often. When I was older and asked them about it, some of them (especially the older people) truly seemed to think that it was just what you called all black people. Others only used it to label those black people that they felt fit the negative stereotypes of black people. I don't excuse them for it, but apparently they were brought up differently than I was.

As time moved on, almost all of the white people I know had completely dropped this word from their public vocabulary. It was just not acceptable to say it in polite circles unless we were lamenting it's use in songs or the fact that kids don't seem to know it's history. I don't know if some still used it in private, but they didn't around me.

Unfortunately, with the current use in songs and as a slang for friend, I have begun to hear "my nigga" thrown around, especially among young adults. I guess the line of thinking is, "well black people say it, so it must be okay."

It is discouraging to me and it very much feels like we are all taking a step backwards, but I don't know what to do about it. I am teaching my son about the history of the word and it's negative aspects, but popular culture is telling him something very different.

What do you do as a parent to combat this? How can I express the pain that this word has caused to so many, when even the children of those it has been used against don't seem to understand it's vileness?

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livinonfaith — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 11:48:55 -0000

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CC — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 16:46:11 -0000

the first time i heard black folk use it was way back, and it was used in the way i've always hated. i.e. 'effin' n#*#**s, this is why people hate us' it was used as a shaming of any black person that someone felt might jeopardize yt loving them. what made this worse for me was this was an incident of police brutality and yet a few black folk we're labeling those that we're victims n#*##**s and embarrassments.

thank god the conscious movement came back and it found it's way into hip hop. a shame that for those that wanted to reclaim the word, they didn't follow the same reasoning some pro black folk did i.e. x-clan lyric 'i'm that pro black n#*##* that they can't stand' and double shame the conscious movement faded away once again.

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CC — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 12:46:11 -0000

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Jamdown — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 19:25:40 -0000

I have never used the "N" word. Yes, a few black people around me use it as a joke, but it is not a word that I approve of, or that I believe should be used by any person - black or white, except for historical purposes.

I've heard the claim that by using it, blacks are making it harmless, but this cannot be true because if a white person uses the "N" word, we're all ready to beat him/her down. And justifiably so.

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Jamdown — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 15:25:40 -0000

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Anonymous — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 07:40:50 -0000

This blog is pretty cool. Not sure if anyone is interested in this, but, as a person from a European country that has very, very few black people, I have to say that the way the n-word comes off through the media here makes it seem harmless or even friendly. A lot of young people around me think it's similar to "mate" or "buddy", because they see black people say it to one another in movies. I have a friend who got banned from a public chat for saying it to another white guy, on a friendly tone, and he was very surprised that he got banned. I think it would be good if this word disappeared from public speech altogether.

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Anonymous — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 03:40:50 -0000

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The Sphinx — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 00:58:10 -0000

I totally agree. This word was, is, and always will be offensive. No matter who uses it. No matter in what context they use it. There's no such thing as an endearing offensive word. WTH? I think sometimes black people are the worst when it comes to stuff like this. This word is released from their mouths on a regular, but they're ready to fight when others use it. How about trying to set an example. I hate this word.

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The New Black Woman — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 00:18:55 -0000

Very good post! And, yes, you are a Magical Negro--you are articulate, CLEAN and able to put a sentence together.

I always cringe when I hear this word being tossed around, particularly from the mouths of young people.

I have the belief that the word always stings in some form or fashion no matter how you use it.

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The Sphinx — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 20:58:10 -0000

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The New Black Woman — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 20:18:55 -0000

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Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 17:09:36 -0000

I love this post.

It made me think about a recent conversation I had with an associate who happens to be a high school math teacher and an assistant basketball coach. I noticed that he said the N word often, and I asked him how does he feel about his students using the word...he said, "Not a damn thing."

...sad...

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HawkMom — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 16:16:53 -0000

I don't care who uses it, as long as they don't use it around me. I'm black and I've never felt comfortable using the word. Nobody has ever sounded intelligent saying it. I'm not offended when I hear it in songs or when comedians say it, but I also limit my exposure to certain forms of entertainment like that. A Chris Rock routine is topical. A rapper using it as lyrical filler? Not so much.

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Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 13:09:36 -0000

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A. Spence — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 12:24:50 -0000

"I know I am a magical negro."

All of a sudden Puff the Magic Dragon song popped into my head.

the N word makes me cringe. I hate hearing it's use.

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HawkMom — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 12:16:53 -0000

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A. Spence — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 08:24:50 -0000

"I know I am a magical negro."

All of a sudden Puff the Magic Dragon song popped into my head.

the N word makes me cringe. I hate hearing it's use.

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Anonymous — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 03:02:16 -0000

I will preface this saying it isn't relative to the topic at hand. Please check out this story on CNN:

http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRI...

Where is the outcry? I can't help think that this stops some relationships that could happen. I am sure you might of done a post like this before. But wondering if you could divulge here.

Thank you.

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underOvr (aka The U) — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 02:31:39 -0000

Siditty,

I've gone through an internal debate each time I've used the word in a post. I'm uncomfortable using it but when I'm writing to make a point, I will use the word.

I agree there is a power historically inherent in the word, giving it the capacity to imbue and erode. I do not practice the use of it conversationally.

U

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Monie — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 23:29:30 -0000

Whenever I hear someone using the N word I always think a fight is about to breakout. It's impossible for me to tell when a person is using the N word as a term of endearment (yeah right) or when they are about to fight.

I think the word is an example of blatant self-hatred. And it has spread now to other ethnic groups using it to address each other. But of course none of those groups use the derogatory word that has been used against their ethnic group to address each other. I wonder why.

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givepeace05401 — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 23:28:54 -0000

It really troubles me (breaks my heart) to hear our young people using this word so freely.

Are they hearing this word at home? Do they use this word in front of their parents and teachers?

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Anonymous — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 23:02:16 -0000

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underOvr (aka The U) — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 22:31:39 -0000