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Our (mine and Mrs Brohommas) hearts go out to you.
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my mum lost her baby yesterday as well....
I can't hug ya for real but I am sending you a great, big cyber hug sis.
There is little comfort that I or anyone can offer you at this time but know that I feel for you and the loss of your daughter.
I know it's tough to say the right thing, or even to say anything without it sounding shallow, but my sympathies honestly and truly do go out for you and your husband.
Take as much time as you need to deal with this as only you see fit. We'll be here when you're ready.
I'm terribly sorry to hear about your loss. I will be thinking about you and wish you the best in your recovery.
this post just breaks my heart. please understand you are being human. you are expressing your pain and indeed all the world, all the people and their expectations be damned. these things are utterly irrelevant in the moment. there is no strength in denying your humanity. denying you are a feeling being.
my sister miscarried too years ago, so I have a little Idea of the pain. but only a little idea, I'll never know it first hand.
really, my heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry this happened.
I am sorry for your loss.
I am sorry to hear this news, really sorry.
I hope you take time to heal and not worry about anything.
I am praying for you.
I am so deeply sorry for you and your husband.
There is no shame in grieving for such a profound loss (or any other hurt for that matter). Take care of yourself.
The whole strong black woman thing is overrated. Who's gives a damn about that at a time like this? You don't need anyone's permission to show grief.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Words cannot convey my sorrow. You are in my thoughts.
i always cringe at the mention of the "strong black woman" trope because it seems to set up strength through isolation and stoicism. Any metallurgist will tell you that alloys are stronger then base elements, and so i decided to comment today to reveal to you the strength you have at your command from your willingness to be multiply-appreciated, rather than singly suffering.
i just want to say that the truly strong person allows others to help them through their moment of crisis. You have a beautiful relationship with your husband, and you have a core following here that may not know you personally, but care about you, your life, your dreams, and your pain.
Thank you for being strong enough to share...and may god continue to watch over you and yours at this time.
Cry whenever you want to!!!
Sherri
I am so sorry.
I am so so sorry for your loss. You and your husband will be in my prayers.
Tasha
Nothing I can say through this medium how sorry I am but I am deeply sorry for your lost.
I was so happy for you especially as we are around the same age and appreciate your depth and honesty.
I truly will pray and hope that you will be all right.
Cry, let it all out--don't be strong to save face. You are a woman and have every right to let it all hang out.
If you need to talk or cry you have another cyber helping hand to contact me via email.
Please stay blessed and take care.
I am so sorry for your loss. I suffered a miscarriage two years ago so you will feel as if every nerve in your body is exposed for a long time. There is no time table for the length of your grief. Just grieve and get it all out. You just learn to cope, but it is not easy. I will pray for you, because strength from others does help.
And remember, you don't have to care about anyone else right now. You suffered a major loss and you need to focus on yourself and your healing.
This is a horrible thing for mothers and fathers to go through. I will be thinking of you and your husband.
SIMONE
Personally, I am so sorry for your loss and hope you will continue to be strong (yes I'm using that word but perhaps not in the "strong black woman" context) and make it through. I wish only the best for you and your husband right now.
My heart goes out to you and I will pray for your baby girl.
PLUSH
How terrible. Its natural to grieve at such a loss. There are limits to strength. The loss of a child has to be worst loss.
This is a really a bad period. A friend of mine yesterday lost his one day old baby, a girl too.
May you have enough strength to pull you through.
I feel you on your post about displaying your emotions and not caring who knows it. I mean, sheesh, what's so wrong with letting it out? Isn't that the healthier way of dealing with things instead of just bottling it all up inside?
When I was watching the Tyra clip, the only people who disgusted me were Christian and his stupidity(as if any Black woman would want to date him, no one's that desperate) and the lighter-skinned Black woman's attitude toward the Sikh man, Middle Easterns, and the Black man/White woman couple. Imagine my surprise when I see that people here who commented on it were mainly discussing how embarrassed they were to see a Black woman crying in public and less toward Christian and his backward views and the other Black woman's hypocrisy/racist views toward other groups. Ironic.
Showing our feeling is a natural human trait, not weakness. Please realize and recognize.
Sid, my sincerest condolences are with you, your husband and family. I know you are going through a very very tough and tragic time right now. *typing and wiping away tears*
God is with your baby. She is smiling down on you and your husband, and God almighty is with her. Just knowing she is in a much better place will be some of the comfort that will help ease your mind over time. Right now how you feel ain't even about being strong, it's about dealing with the pain the way you feel you should, and once done, carrying on with the rest of life.
Let God be your comforter and strength during this tragic time.
I love you fellow blogger and pray that you can grieve in your own way and be able to ease your mind with the loss in due time. My heart goes out to you and yours.
Much love and prayers,
Untouched Jewel
My heart and prayers go out to you and your husband. No words, no words.
I am holding you, rocking you & crying & cursing with you.
patsgirl
deeply sorry to hear of your loss. It broke my heart
to read your post.
You shared something very personal and heartwrenching to your readers. We are greatful you entrusted us to let us know some of the pain you are experiencing.
My prayers of peace and love go out to you and your husband.
Best Wishes
My heart goes out to you and your husband.
Losing a child when you have so many hopes and dreams built into the anticipation of their birth is COMPLETELY normal.
In Jewish tradition, 30 days of mourning are taken after a burial where families of the deceased aren't expected to do anything but mourn.
Take the time to properly grieve or you'll end up holding on to your pain even longer. My prayers are with you.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss
Though I wasn't able to comment as much, I followed your pregnancy from the moment you announced it.
My thoughts are with you and your husband right now.
God bless.
I'm saddened to hear of your loss. I pray God gives you and your husband comfort through this difficult time.
I wish you peace.
I'm so sorry to hear about your lost. I am without words. My heart goes out to you.
Again I'm so so sorry for you and your husband's loss.
I'm not the prayerful type--I'm a Buddhist--but I'll do my best to approximate with you in mind.
Your blog is like talking to a close friend that you keep in touch with periodically to see how things are doing. I check in every couple of weeks to see what you have to say. Such a positive and interesting blogger.
So I started reading this post and stopped short at the news of your baby girl.
I'm sorry. I'm so sorry.
I promise I will get back to you guys.
If need to, email me: shadowfaery@verizon.net
God Bless.
i checked in today to see how you were and what was on your mind. as i read, hurt for you. i am so sorry for you and your family's loss.
crying is cleansing. allow yourself this gift.
i pray that you find healing and acceptance.
blessings to you and yours sis.
sending you warmth, love, and peace,
focusedpurpose
I <3 your blog!
Nikita
I am sorry for your loss. Hang in there! My prayers for you and your family.
*cyberhug*
The March of Dimes has created a Bereavement Kit for families who have suffered a loss. It contains fact sheets on reasons for loss and booklets that deal with the issues From Hurt to Healing; What Can You Do?; and Resources. You can read about it at this link: http://www.marchofdimes.com/pnhec/572.asp. If at some point you would like to have one of these helpful and free kits, please send an email requesting it to the following address: bkit@marchofdimes.com.
We're thinking of you.
Bless you and your husband.
I am really sorry to hear that you lost your beautiful baby girl. Please know that you have many fans who are mourning her death with you.
We love you - don't give up your dream of having a family.
Love Jamdown.
Stealthkitty
I don't come here as often as I like but was just making the rounds and when I read this post, I just felt your pain. Words seem so inadequate at times like this and you have suffered a great loss.
Screw stereotypes, be gentle with yourself and do whatever you need to do.
I am so sorry for your loss.