Siditty: Angry & Black Since 1976 - Latest Comments in http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/01/how-i-grew-up.html

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MrsRony — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 18:54:00 -0000

Wow...this could of been my life story for the most part. Except in Jr. High those black girls that wanted to beat me up gave up after a while and decided to give me black lessons and made me listen to El DeBarge and the Sugar Hill gang. I tried really hard. I got a Jerri curl and everything but I couldn't get over my love of Def Leppard and the hazel eyed 8th grader Adam Brumart. They gave up and declared that I would never be black. I think I gave up too. My polar bear says he is more black than me because he really did grow up in the "hood".

I too am more militant the older and grumpier I get. LOL.

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MrsRony — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 13:54:00 -0000

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Siditty — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 06:09:00 -0000

I love that pic of you!!! I think that you will have a girl who will look just like you. I have a feeling, I could be wrong, but I have been right with my friends' babies and my own as well :-)

Everyone says it will be a girl. Keeping fingers crossed so I can buy a bunch of pink to make a girly girl, even though if she ends up like me she will prefer Tonka to Barbie.

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Where ya been Texasladybird? Why you ain't commenting no mo? j/k

First: Congrats on the baby!! The world needs more angry, siditty babies.  Second:Thanks for sharing this. :)

Thank you, I plan on making some angry, siditty babies, hopefully they will be well adjusted unlike their momma.

Also, I had that same uniform too. Is that a Texas thing??

I think it is global. That damn uniform everyone had. You should have seen the corresponding pants I had the option of wearing if I didn't want to wear my jumper. The same sad plaid.

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Jacqueroxx,

Just hang in there, it gets better, you will find people of all races who get you, and who know better than to stereotype you.

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Me talking with a flat midwestern accent doesn't make me white, it just means I'm from the midwest and therefore this is how I talk. Just like talking like 50 Cent wouldn't make Bill O'Reiley any more black.

LOL at Bill O'Reilly talking like 50 cent. The imagery is hilarious :)

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Thank you Soila, as brohammas as pointed out I was slightly toothless, thankfully I have regained all my teeth and so my smile is a little more filled out.

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I, too, figured out as soon as you are confident and comfortable in the mantra of "do you", you'll be fine, and can have those conversations when you need to. Love your blog!

Thanks Eni, and that is exactly what you have to do. You can't alter yourself to make others happy.

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I've really been busy in the 'real life' and been distracted in matters of the heart. Anyway, I'm glad to see your great blog is still very much alive and well and that you're... pregnant. Congratulations !

Yeah that pregnancy thing is still tripping me out as well.

You didn't tell anybody you went out and got yourself a hottie :) Man I told these girls to go after you, but now they missed their chance.

basically, in your upbringing, you were subjected to unfair racial stereotyping and insults from all sides.  I don't think you are at your core pessimistic though. I I would want to come here if that were the case...

Thank you for thinking I am not a complete pessimist, and I still have a glimmer of hope somewhere deep down inside :)

Yeah I got it from all sides, making me weary of all people. I think that is why I am so cautious of people and expect them to talk crazy to me all the time.

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SuperJV — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 02:22:00 -0000

commenting on actual post :)

when you describe things like the "you're not like other blacks" type comments or people (white people !) telling you you had to be more "black", I'm just stunned. It just can't believe things like that pass from their lips. Telling you N****r jokes ??I swear this is an American thing.... it's just incredible (and awful). Then the black kids calling you Oreo. eesh. This sort of overt racial socialization at ghettoization is just foreign to me. The closest I felt to feeling is when I lived in Orlando in the 90s.

what the f**k does talking white mean ?? that drives me crazy. yes I know what it means... speaking proper english. The very expression seems racist to me...

basically, in your upbringing, you were subjected to unfair racial stereotyping and insults from all sides.

I don't think you are at your core pessimistic though. I I would want to come here if that were the case...

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SuperJV — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 02:12:00 -0000

hey Siditty, I'm sorry I've been away from your blog for so long. I've really been busy in the 'real life' and been distracted in matters of the heart. Anyway, I'm glad to see your great blog is still very much alive and well and that you're... pregnant. Congratulations !

I assume the pic here really is you ? so cute !!!

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SuperJV — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 21:22:00 -0000

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Eni — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 02:09:00 -0000

Very cool to hear about someone my age growing up in a similar environment. My upper/middle class childhood town was a healthy mixture of many cultures, though predominately black and white. Religion was pretty much split even between Christianity and Judaism. I feel lucky to have grown up in a mini-quasi utopia of sorts. I was the "only" little black girl in my "gifted & talented" classes in elementary school, too, and was made fun of by some of the black students. I learned to get over it! It's not cool to be dumb, on purpose. LOL. Now many years removed from that town, I still get the teasing/comments of being a "white" black girl for the way I talk, the things I like, and the men I am attracted to. No less, from some of my closest black girlfriends, ha! And I have had to set a few good white friends straight on terming me as 'not black'. We make fun of each others differences but it's the similarities of who we are as people that makes us fiercely loyal friends. I, too, figured out as soon as you are confident and comfortable in the mantra of "do you", you'll be fine, and can have those conversations when you need to. Love your blog!

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SOILA. — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 21:16:00 -0000

I Looooooove that picture of you :)

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Eni — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 21:09:00 -0000

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SOILA. — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 16:16:00 -0000

I Looooooove that picture of you :)

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graphixie — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 06:13:00 -0000

I too went to a predominantly white school, and when I was younger I heard variations of "oh you're nice for a black person," "you talk well for a black person," etc. I never really knew what to say to people when they thought they were giving me a compliment. I always wondered why they didn't realize that they basically just brought down an entire group of people.

Me talking with a flat midwestern accent doesn't make me white, it just means I'm from the midwest and therefore this is how I talk. Just like talking like 50 Cent wouldn't make Bill O'Reiley any more black.

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graphixie — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 01:13:00 -0000

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Kristin — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 22:59:00 -0000

"Yeah, now that it's been explained, it makes sense. Too bad you weren't smart enough to see how your original comment could be construed in the way it was."

Anon you appear to be one of those people that look to take offense when there is never any to begin with. It appears you have issues with your own intelligence I suggest you handle that issue first.

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JacqueRoxx — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 20:07:00 -0000

Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I'm so glad I found your blog! Well I'm in H.S. and ever since the 6th grade Ive been told that I act white. I used to get offended until I realized that thats such an ignorant comment.

One of my friends (who's black)recently told me that I act white because I "talk proper". She was basically saying that white people have a better vocabulary and a better grasp of the english language.

AND she said in North Carolina (where she's from) that I wouldnt fit in because I'm NOT black. She didnt just say that I don't act black. She said that I am NOT black.

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Anonymous — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 19:05:00 -0000

Hey thanks Siditty for replying to the Anon I am just now getting around to it. What you said was so very true my first go round with advance placement classes came in the sixth grade when I was denied entry to the advanced placement jr. high because they had met there quota of black students. But I am sure anon doesn't understand that.
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Yeah, now that it's been explained, it makes sense. Too bad you weren't smart enough to see how your original comment could be construed in the way it was.

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Kristin — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 17:59:00 -0000

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JacqueRoxx — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 15:07:00 -0000

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Kristin — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 19:01:00 -0000

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texasladybird — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 17:37:00 -0000

@ classical one:

HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!

It's been in my experience that when other black people call you stuck up and accuse you of talking white, it's almost as if they fear what's in front of them.

Kind of like a Klan member finding out his new boss is a Black man/woman; it does not compute.

Your refusal to fit into a stereotype causes them to display their ignorance and lash out.

Also, I had that same uniform too. Is that a Texas thing??

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texasladybird — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 17:26:00 -0000

I ain't left a comment here in a minute. But I have been reading!

First: Congrats on the baby!! The world needs more angry, siditty babies.

Second:Thanks for sharing this. :)

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Kristin — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 14:01:00 -0000

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texasladybird — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 12:37:00 -0000