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A black man looking of answer — Sat, 04 May 2013 05:43:43 -0000

I don't think someone is hating on you. I think that women do think to get attention.

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Caliph — Tue, 07 Aug 2012 04:42:44 -0000

As a black man with black daughters, I have to say that I hate the weave. It's more tolerable when it is at least a color that is natural to a black woman..a brown to dark black woman. If a black woman is born with light colored hair or highlights, then fine..it's the way God planned it and it looks good..and feels good to the touch as long as it's cared for..good hair is healthy hair, and that can be just as nappy as original African. My problem isn't so much the changing up when women get bored, but with doing things that look and feel unnatural..braiding blonde or colors into the braids, streaking the hair..I think it looks stupid and distracts from the unique beauty that is black woman. And by the way sisters, if you're an "unattractive" woman by Western standards, putting on a wig or a weave only makes you unattractive with a wig or weave. And please stop wearing crazy lip colors too..I thought the point of make up and hair styles was to ENHANCE your beauty or cover up a flaw of some kind, not distract from the beauty that women all over the world in some way try to emulate. I choose running my hands through sweet smelling naps any day over getting them stuck in weave braids..that's if you let me run my fingers through it at all.

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Doudy — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 13:11:36 -0000

Sillyme202020:
You said something about white people dying their hair and wearing lenses. Of course, for them too, this is not natural, but there is one BIG difference with black people: it could have been naturel, these colors belong to their peoples. Whereas an African American person is unlikely to have hair and eyes of another color than black.
Yes, there is hidden self-hate, since the media make us think that beauty is white (how stupid!). Therefore, we see many famous black persons trying to whien themselves. Take a look at Beyonce, with her fake blond hair. What the f** is she doing? Telling her many young fans that black can't be beautiful?

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Bronzekitten29 — Mon, 11 Jul 2011 15:41:37 -0000

Hello everyone,

I am a black woman as well. I have never worn contacts but I do like them. However, I am a fan of weave. I love weave because its very versatile and i am trying to grow my hair out without chemicals. A simple swipe over the top with a flat iron every now and then is all i need to blend my hair with the weave. . I have had short pixie cuts and I've had my hair mid waist as well( my real hair) I didn't have any complications growing up in life or racial problems. I've had friends from everywhere but I know who I am. Weave doesn't make or break me but it is my choice to wear it and I love a beautiful weave. I believe people should learn to accept who they are. Once you know who you are no man or woman under the sun will be able to tear you down. People continuously judge black people because society had taught them to judge black people. Some black people flock to things because they want to be accepted, but some of us have simple reasons like "just because I like it" or" trying to grow it out" which is my case. My natural hair is very thin, and I couldn't do half of the styles I wear now, if I was just wearing my natural hair. I agree with a lot of the previous posts, there are serious issues out there in the world to attend to, however weave and contacts probably aren't that high on the list .(lol)

Take care!

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Cristie — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 08:09:48 -0000

If she continues like that she will end up wearing a permanent wig

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Fancy Face — Sun, 08 Aug 2010 18:04:38 -0000

I agree with Sillyme202020. Like tyra banks said. its about having the right to choose. its about options..i loooove my real hair its fab but I looove the fact that tomorow I can clip in some extentions and have a completely different look. I like to keep ppl guessin and experiment..its fun...lighten up. Its is so superficial to put so much effort into talking about this anyway. Just bcuz something is not your style does not mean it wrong or beneath you. us black women and Women in general need to learn to uplift one another and celebrate eachother instead of finding fault with everything the next woman does...like I said you need to lighten up hun.

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Sillyme202020 — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 23:06:06 -0000

People have their own personal reasons for doing things, Siddity. I'm a proud African woman myself and have long waist-length hair, which I was able to grow out simply by using weaves for a few years. It's not an issue of self hate or low self-esteem, but simply one of practicality. You and many other people like you need to stop being so judgmental. Focus on the real issues in the world, not the use of weaves and/or colored contacts by black people. For your information, I know a lot of white people who use both weaves/extensions and colored contacts. Does the idea of self hate apply to them as well?

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Monific1 — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 00:48:58 -0000

SO WHAT!!! white women do it, Asian women do it, Latino women do it! SO WHAT! Just stop being so hard on black women! Good for you that you never wore a weave on your head, THAT"S YOU!!! Just DO YOU, and stop worrying about what pother black women do! And for you to make a blog about it, just shows how pathetic you are! Get some business, and you wouldn't have to worry about other black women are doing! I found your blog by a fluke, and I'll never come back!

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Jkjih — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 21:46:24 -0000

silly. do what you want...who cares.

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Mystia — Thu, 27 May 2010 11:47:00 -0000

I have to agree with you, Siditty. Whether or not we would like to admit it, it is often an issue of self-hatred. I'm not going to say always--because there are people like my friend who just wear weaves because they are too lazy to take care of their hair (her words, lol)--but often it does play a role in the choice.
If self-hatred were not a major reason, then why do the majority of black women do some sort of alteration to their hair? If it were merely one option among many, wouldn't there be more people wearing their hair natural? And wouldn't those people who were natural be left alone instead of receiving comments from other black women about their hair being nappy (this has happened to me quite a bit since I decided to go natural last year)? Then there is that argument about natural hair being hard to manage...psssh. While I do know that people in other races with curly hair straighten their hair and get chemical straighteners, I know a lot more of these people from other races than in my own who have devised ways to take care of their hair, knowing that it doesn't respond as well to the sulfate shampoo and comb as straight hair does. Why isn't that the case for more black women (as in, why don't we educate ourselves on taking care of our natural hair)?

I'm not discounting the other reasons for wanting to wear colored contacts or weaves. I'm just agreeing with Siditty that self-hatred is a reason, if not a major one. I can't even be high and mighty about it, because until about four years ago, it was the reason for me too.

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Mrs.Aichele — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 06:27:01 -0000

huh.... if makes someone happy OR they just simply want to try something then new why should it bother the next person....DON'T LIKE DON'T LOOK!!! Hair contacts or dye its just physical ....sure hope you all don't think going natura orl wearing dreads make you anymore of an authentic "black" as the next person!

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Melle — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 11:42:34 -0000

I miss the 1990s Lil' Kim. I used to listen to her music really early in the morning with the volume down low and the caption on because I wasn't allowed to listen to her raunchy lyrics, R&B music or any music besides Soft Rock or things from the 60s-80s.

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siditty — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 13:50:44 -0000

The point is, it's my blog and I blog about whatever I damn well please, and I know that in reality black women succumb to mainstream beauty standards, which don't reflect us, leading to a lot of self hatred in some instances.

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shayyyyyy — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 02:14:53 -0000

It's called doing what you WANT TO DO. IT'S THEIR FACE AND BODIES so they can do w/e they want...also, blk people come in all shapes and forms just like other races...so the point of this commentary is?!

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thelady — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 03:12:36 -0000

I wore hazel colored contacts for few days, they were a free trial pair (I have glasses). I hated the way they looked on me yet dudes complimented me on "my" light eyes. I think they make black people look like vampires.

Never had a weave or wig (except one shiny gold one for Halloween). I've always had thick/long afro textured hair, I try not to be too judgmental of women with shorter hair but I hate when weaves look obviously fake.

I don't like light hair in general, I just don't find it attractive. Even on white people I prefer medium brown to black hair. I do like red hair on white women. I've had red brown highlights before and I've dyed my hair black. My natural color is dark brown.
I do thing Lil Kim and Letoya suffer from self hatred. The extremes they have gone to surgery+fake hair+fake eyes make me think it is more than just trendiness or experimenting with their look.

Anyone ever notice that colored contacts scare babies?

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thelady — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 23:12:36 -0000

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Siditty — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 21:17:38 -0000

But it is useless to get a weave if you have long hair. If you work out with long hair you put it up, you wrap it at night. You don't straighten it everyday. I have yet to see a black woman with natural waist length hair run to get a weave for less maintenance. Weaves are costly and cause breakage, why would black women with long hair want to break off their hair and spend money on hair they already have?

If you want to give your hair a break, you wear protective styles, like buns and updos, you don't put glue or tracks in your head that cause further damage.

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Rae — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 20:12:04 -0000

Omg most women(and im not zoning in on any one race) wear weaves for thousands of different reasons! Here think outside the box: jus becuz there hair is already long doesn't mean it's useless to get a weave, for example maybe they work out everyday and they're press sweats out, no one especially a black woman in their right mind would restraighten it EVERY DAY! That's wayy too much heat and will quickly damage your own hair. Now if they worked out with a weave who cares? The weave will dry straight after being drenched with sweat. There's no one reason for getting a weave. It's nice to give your hair a break for awhile so what? No one should be judged jus because they were born with long straight hair and want curly short hair or curly long hair for a couple months, they should do and get whatever they want!! Please stop judging bcuz you just sound rude and unthoughtful. [all black women aren't lil kim, Duh]

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Siditty — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 17:17:38 -0000

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Rae — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 16:12:04 -0000

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Siditty — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 00:52:00 -0000

I for one wear weaves and wigs because, i love the versatility it gives me with styling. i can change my look as and when i feel like. My hair is in its natural african state and i love to wear it out on occassion in a fro. i also love to experiment with coloured contacts but all these have no bearing on my view of self and or confidence. i know who i am and love who i am, and all the externals are just me having fun plain and simple.

And that is how it should be, women just wanting to change things up. Lil Kim is trying to be Barbie or Pamela Anderson.

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I will say this white women wear more of it then any other race and no one says anything. Actually when they wear it they are put in the spotlight and it is so cute. I

I don't think weave and peroxide blonde hair is cute on white women either.

What baffles me about black men is they will say nasty comments about black women and fake hair. But will be fascinated by fake boobs on white women.

I am not a man.

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Sidditty I assume you are a man so I guess you thing we black women hate ourselves. I wear weave and I did not hate myself. I like the variety of hair styles I can wear. So I do not need a man telling me what to wear. I understand concepts that have been placed in our society about beauty but there are fashion statement. Well that is all you men are going to think what you want. I am pretty sure all races of men make comments about their women. I am liberated from what men think.

I am a woman who is married to a man and I am very happy you are liberated from what men think.

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Anonymous — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 23:39:00 -0000

Sidditty I assume you are a man so I guess you thing we black women hate ourselves. I wear weave and I did not hate myself. I like the variety of hair styles I can wear. So I do not need a man telling me what to wear. I understand concepts that have been placed in our society about beauty but there are fashion statement. Well that is all you men are going to think what you want. I am pretty sure all races of men make comments about their women. I am liberated from what men think.

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kim1 — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 23:34:00 -0000

Hi I do not have a problem with any type of enhancement. I have been through all of the stages of the hair weave thing. I will say this white women wear more of it then any other race and no one says anything. Actually when they wear it they are put in the spotlight and it is so cute. I will admit I am a artist and I consider it art. Being able to alter your appearance be attaching or extending something to your body is the oldest form of art. Study history. I wore a afro for 3 years straight and I wanted a different look so I tried weave. It is all about a look. Hair is a fashion now and basically always been people have been wearing wigs for ages. Now since black women have been wearing it we are considered fake. That is intriges me. I want to see people make comment about white women and their fake stuff. The reality show "Wives of Orange County" all those women are fake and they do not get put down. What baffles me about black men is they will say nasty comments about black women and fake hair. But will be fascinated by fake boobs on white women. To sum it up in America is fake we eat fake food and that is worst then what you put on. So what is better fake food or fake hair. Besides who are men to tell us what to wear. Let's talk about what men are wearing. Why so much beating on black women. We still have not escaped the Willie Lynch Theory.

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Siditty — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 20:52:00 -0000

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Anonymous — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 19:39:00 -0000